Well, here you are—growing a whole new human being, navigating a world of scans, appointments, and well-meaning (but often unsolicited) advice.
Whether this is your first baby or you’re an old hand at this parenting thing, one truth remains: this birth is unique, and you only get to experience it once.
So let’s make it count, shall we?
The Art of Speaking Up
Advocating for yourself in birth can feel a bit like walking into a Michelin-starred restaurant and questioning the chef. “Are you sure this is how it’s meant to be done?”
But here’s the thing—this isn’t just any meal. This is your birth. Your body. Your baby.
It’s absolutely your right to ask, to question, and to decide what feels right for you. The medical system may be full of policies and protocols, but you are not a policy—you’re a person. And your birth should feel like yours, not something happening to you.
Investing in a Birth Experience That Feels Like Wow
It’s easy to see the price tag of independent midwifery care and wince. But what if you flipped the perspective? What if, instead of seeing it as a cost, you saw it as an investment in a birth experience that makes you feel calm, powerful, and truly seen?
Because that’s what it is.
A midwife isn’t just someone who turns up on the day and catches your baby. She’s someone who listens to your fears, helps you untangle your options, and reminds you—when you need it most—that you can do this. She’s your advocate, your guide, and in those raw, transformative moments, your unwavering support.
You Know More Than You Think
There’s a myth that birth is something best left to the experts, that you should just follow instructions and hope for the best. But you?
You are the expert in your own body.
You already have instincts guiding you—whether it’s a deep sense of what feels right, or a little niggle in the back of your mind telling you to ask more questions. Trust those instincts. Birth is not about compliance; it’s about confidence.
And confidence? That comes with preparation. Start small. Read, research, ask questions. Get clear on what matters to you. Have conversations that might feel a little uncomfortable. The more you step into your power, the more natural it will feel to stand your ground when it really matters.
A Birth to Remember
One day, this will all be a memory. The intensity, the rawness, the sheer wonder of it all. And when you look back, I want you to feel proud.
Proud that you made choices that felt right. Proud that you stood up for yourself.
Proud that, in a world that often tells women to shrink, you took up space in the most magnificent way.
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